Over the summer, my Norfolk Island Pine (above, photographed in March of this year when I moved the sofa to mop and lunged at the opportunity to have a blank wall to photograph her against) lost a lot of little limbs. Not entire arms, thank god!, but little… fingers? I don’t know what to call them– I’m not a botanist– but trust when I say that Ms. NIP is now thinner and ganglier than ever, yet she’s still absolutely thriving.
Every time another fingery branch started the process of slowly yellowing and then dropping, my heart sank. It was like I was losing a piece of myself and like the seven years we had spent together were slowly drying up and dropping away, too. Look, I know she’s a plant, but the two of us have been through a lot together. And I guess this is a good reminder that sometimes we need to let go in order to keep on growing. Or something? Idk.
And with that, here’s a round-up of some of the stuff I’ve kept open in tabs for way too long/have recently come across and haven’t yet forgotten about while on sharing hiatus.
I want to go to this adorable wine bar in upstate NY. And then never leave.
When I got married, I joked (it wasn’t a joke though) that I wanted a new wedding ring every 5 years. Well! It’s been 7 and a half, and though I swap out what I wear on my ring finger on the regular, I think it’s high time that I actually invest in something a bit special as my next Official 2.0 Wedding Ring. Something by Grace Lee, perhaps? I’d love a little stack like this one. (Related: I finally feel old enough for diamonds. Tell your friends!)
I really enjoyed this article about influencers turning into unfluencers in The Cut. Who hasn’t been there?? I know it’s harsh, but every time someone I follow but don’t actually know announces a pregnancy, that there’s a 95% chance that I’ll unfollow them within a year.
Happy recent pub date to Get Together! I can’t wait to get my hands on this when I’m in the States in October.
Don’t tell my mom, but my best friend and I are thinking about/probably/for sure going to get something like this but not this inked when we’re in Florida together. I honestly didn’t think finding something to get permanently drawn on my body would be such a process, but it’s been really difficult to settle on something… I just keep thinking I’ll know when I find it, so I’m keeping my eyes open for something beautiful and delicate.
“Clutter is the country’s way of life, and buying the most luxurious version of a thing you don’t really need doesn’t make it more useful.” I loved Amanda Mull on the Goop life for The Atlantic. Bonus quote: “In an era when many people take the idea of “voting with their wallet” quite seriously, it’s no wonder that self-care, a concept first articulated by the radical poet and civil-rights activist Audre Lorde, was commodified into a righteous cry for fancy bath products. Goop, with its $3,000 dresses and $95 drinkable skin care, is the company you get when people believe that having nice things and being a good person are achieved through the same means.”
I bought this Drag Queen Adult Therapy Coloring Book as soon as I knew of its existence and am already planning a colouring day with my friend Ed. The book kindly includes TWO pictures of each featured Queen, which means we won’t have to fight over who gets to colour Katya. Win!
Another way I’m self-soothing these days (I know! It’s almost like I didn’t read the Amanda Mull article!) is with a Shakti Mat. I’ve only had it a few weeks, but when I actually remember to use it, I’ve noticed a really big reduction in the tension I carry in my neck and back. David likes it too. Once I make using it a regular habit, I might share more about it.
With so many of my regular listens going on summer holiday, I was forced to discover some new podcasts. My latest favourite? This Is Uncomfortable. Host Reema Khrais makes the best I’m listening/empathising/feeling you noises in all of radio, even when she’s discussing some of the trickiest money stories. Listen!
Speaking of listening, I love the new Lana. Duh! I also love the new Taylor. Just wanted to let you know. 💘
And lastly, I finally made the switch to wireless earphones and am already stressing out about how I’m going to cope with having to charge these things while on long trips. I mean, they’re great. But did I really need something else to have to remember to charge??????? (They are really great for running though.)
Okay, enough. Too much? Whatever. I’m fresh out of fucks forever. Or just for now. BYE. HAPPY SEPTEMBER.